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In Flow

Roslyn Loxton - Friday, August 08, 2014


In business and in all life - Being In Flow Matters

a mental state of operation where the person is fully immersed in what they are doing by feeling an energised focus, full involvement and success in the process of the activity.  It is a state of supreme creativity.

Great Thinking Sharing concepts…

Link to watch the speaker -

It requires a balance of 2 things 

  1. Be happy where you are now and 
  2. Having an inspiring vision for the future

4 States we can be in:

1. The negative Spiral

You are not happy and you have no vision of where you want to be

you focus on where you don’t want to be and you spiral into depression

2. Current reality trap

Happy now with no vision of the future

difficult to contribute and grow - no sense of fulfilment

we need to contribute and grow as opposed to being happy in mediocrity - it doesn’t last

3. Stress and anxiety

not happy now but big visions for the future

visions and thinking big

can’t function with ultimate impact if you are being blocked by negative emotional states

4. In Flow

Happy now and have grand dreams for the future

Thought plus emotion equals attraction - Bob Proctor

The paradox of intention - have goals but don’t be too tied to the goals.  Be happy in the journey, not the destination.  Notice when flow happens and change your life to make it happen more often.  Make a conscious effort to stay in flow.


Your passions are the breadcrumbs that lead you on your path to your destiny

If you do not enjoy what you are doing, flow will not occur.  You can’t magnify your impact.

If you are in any business and you don’t enjoy what you do - GET OUT

Sometimes you have to destroy your life as you know it to let the next big thing happen.

Ten tactics to keep IN FLOW in business


Daily gratitude - what you appreciate appreciates 

(scientists have found that expressing gratitude makes your happiness go up 25%)

Awesomeness reports - cool stories of things employees did in or outside of work

(the bell of awesomeness that can only be rung in moments in sheer and total awesomeness)  Start small and grow it as people get better and more engaged.

Share profits with employees go straight to employees.  People are aligned with company goals.  Start small.  Test and experiment until you land on what works best.

(nothing happens until you have a dream and you start thinking big)

Sweet sugar love machine people flourish on praise - send gifts and praise to each other

45 - 5 Rule - work hours a week - be productive - 5 of those hours are spent learning new stuff. 5 hours paid to learn outside of work.  Teaching people to put aside execution and learn.  Marketing, meditation and mindset.

Weekly sharing and training - peers share their knowledge.  You learn from teaching

Group meditation - the entire company does a guided meditation on what the next 6 months looks like.  Raise peoples vision for the future which is a part of being in flow

Company sponsored fun - yearly celebrations, have lots of parties

(unexpected side effects) bring your smartest friend to the parties and poach these people

Positive Stamina -  only remember the good.  Look past the wrong and create a bold new vision for the future and start again.  Focus on the vision not what went wrong.  New ideas and solutions pop.  Learn to manage your mind so you do not let a negative situation lure you into negativity.

Experiences and connections - the 5 people you hang out with will be the people you become - expose people in your company to brilliant minds to allow people to grow.  Send employees to great conferences, invite people in. 

You are happy when you help other people to be happy - raise emotions and feelings of joy in the present and building a vision for the future. 

The human heart is the most selfish organ in the body.  It takes all the good blood, oxygenated blood.  But the heart needs to be selfish for all of the other organs to live.  You need to be selfish and make sure that your happiness comes first so that you can help others to be happy.

Developing Resilience and Creating Sustainability - Josie Thomson

Roslyn Loxton - Sunday, June 16, 2013

Developing Resilience and Creating Sustainability

By Josephine Thomson <

the ability to bounce back when things get rough and come back stronger than ever...
the potential for long-term maintenance for wellbeing...

Developing my new brand has given me a significant amount of change to manage.  I decided I needed a complete overhaul. My business structure was not supporting me in consistently delivering my best work. I was stressed, did not have systems or processes established, and I was often not coping well.

I recognise this predicament with clients I work with i.e. so much to do, competing priorities to manage, information overload, meeting after meeting, no strategic thinking time, no time to stop to eat properly, poor sleep patterns, juggling professional and personal life balance… and the list goes on. Does this sound familiar? Take heart – you are not alone!

That’s why I have dedicated this newsletter to the art of ‘resilience’ and the potential for developing a life that delivers a ‘sustainable’ platform that supports you in delivering your best self and your best work in your best life.

For myself, addressing my situation, I realised I not only needed a new look, but a complete assessment of everything I do and how I do it. I know that I need to get this important change right. I'm taking my time to ensure that whatever I set up now will carry me forward into the future with greater levels of flow and more effective ways of delivery. I'm handling my stress with regular walks with my dogs (Pixie and Shadow, who you can see in the picture at the beginning of this email) and having clear focus and faith in the outcome. I focus on the ‘what’ step of the journey and allow the ‘how to’ steps to emerge. I’ve even learned that I don’t actually need to ‘control’ everything! (Yes, read that last line again)  ;)


The world around us is growing in complexity, the speed of information is boggling to the mind, the volume of information is more than our brain can handle. Relationships are taxed and pushed to capacity.  Stress and mental health-related conditions are now the second major OH&S issue for workplaces. How then, do we discern what we need to be paying attention to, and what should take priority at any point in time? And how do we balance our own needs and wellbeing into the mix?

The answer is simple. 

Quality results, requires quality thinking.
Quality thinking requires clear focus.
Clarity of focus requires clarity of mind.

Clarity of mind comes through paying close attention to what you are paying attention to, in other words, mindfulness. Mindfulness is the ability to cultivate awareness of the present moment while putting aside our lenses of judgment. It is being in connection with the direct experience of the present moment - the here and now.

Most of us can connect with the example of our minds feeling out of control at times, or our emotions feeling imbalanced. The practice of mindfulness offers us the unique strength of learning how to control our own minds, instead of our minds controlling us.


I’ve developed a practical neuroscience-based ‘Resilience’ program which draws from my studies in the Neuroscience of Leadership, and teaches people how to effectively train their brain to deliver optimal thinking and performance results, whilst delivering greater efficiencies with ease, contentment, wellbeing and flow in their days. This program includes practices in mindfulness and mind management techniques and is ideally suited for groups of 12 or more people as an in-house program. If you’d like to explore this for your workplace, contact me


I have personally drawn on a significant amount of resilience to handle the changes in my own world. As you know, I’ve overcome some major life threatening challenges over the years, which really put ‘life’ into perspective for me. What I’ve learned is that we must always keep perspective about the ‘big picture’. We can ‘have it all’ but perhaps not all at the same time! It’s about stepping back from all the detail and busyness, re-connecting with your truth and values, and getting clear about what you really want and what is most important. 

Quick check: how do you know if you need to build resilience?

  • Increased stress and low moods of depression and anxiety
  • Your attention is often in multiple places at once
  • Boosted emotions of sadness, irritation, frustration, crankiness, shame or guilt
  • Increased conflict in your relationships, work and general enjoyment of life
  • Poor health and physical tension
  • Your mind tends to venture backwards into grievances of the past or forwards to worries of the future
  • Life feels out of balance and overwhelming at times
  • Diminishing performance and quality of outcomes

4 ways to build your resilience, handle stress and change....

  1. Keep the ‘big picture’ focus in check – know what’s really important to you - don’t sweat the small stuff and don’t let others dictate your priorities!
  2. Make some time to think and get out of the busyness of life. Become more mindful of what you are thinking about and what you are paying attention to. Shift your focus from problems, details and drama to outcomes and solutions.
  3. Give thanks and be grateful for your life and circumstances. Everything in life serves as a curse or a blessing – you get to choose! Exploring what you are being invited to learn from adversity and then giving thanks, serves as a reminder of the things you’re grateful for, redirects your attention and rewires your brain… which hopefully results in more smiles. 
  4. Accountability helps to eliminate overload and assists your brain to commit to supporting you along the way.  Write down your top 3 things to achieve each day, work with a buddy, mentor or coach to challenge your habits and enable fresh and proactive new thinking and steps to be taken. 


I’ve already mentioned my Resilience program, and next month, I plan to launch my complete CLR (Change | Leadership | Resilience) series. I'm really excited because it's a culmination of years of study, development, working with outstanding leaders with amazing courage and will to make things better for future generations.

If you have reviewed the points above and you've decided to take action, then I look forward to sharing this with you. Delivered via coaching, group workshops and/or private consultations, the skills I teach will give what you need to harness and navigate your way through the toughest changes, the most demanding leadership challenges and build resilience to deliver your absolute best - every day!

And as for my brand, my new web site is underway, I have a sparkly new logo and many fresh ideas I'm absolutely bursting to share with you. Progress is being made one step at a time, and these steps I KNOW will take me to levels of greater purpose, difference making, joy and fulfillment. 

With Love,

Coaching with Great Thinking

Roslyn Loxton - Friday, February 22, 2013

The Secret of Love - Deepak Chopra

Roslyn Loxton - Friday, February 22, 2013

The Internet has taken up the slack from print media by offering tips on love and relationships, which pop up on home pages, in tweets and in news teasers many times a day. If the secret to lasting romance could be shared like a recipe for cinnamon buns, our problems would be over. But love isn’t a fact, formula, or definable in words.

Love is a process, perhaps the most mysterious one in human psychology. No one knows what creates love as a powerful bond that is so full of meaning. If romance was only a heady brew of hormones, genetic inheritance and sex drive, all we’d need is better data to explain it. But love is transporting. It carries us beyond our everyday selves and makes reality shine with an inner light. The reverse can also happen. We crash to earth when the wear and tear of relationships makes love fade.

The process of love is kept alive by evolving and not getting stuck. Infatuation is an early stage of the process. You bond with another person as if by alchemy, but in time the ego returns with the claims of “I, me, and mine.” At that point love must change. Two people must negotiate how much to share, how much to surrender and how much to stand their ground. It would be tragic if romance faded into everyday familiarity, but it doesn’t have to.

Beyond the stage of two egos negotiating for their own interests, there is deepening love. It doesn’t try to turn the present into the past. A married couple of twenty years isn’t still infatuated with one other. So what keeps the process alive? For me, the answer was revealed by reading a startling sentence from the Upanishads, which are like a textbook of spiritual understanding. The sentence says, “You do not love a spouse for the sake of the spouse but for the sake of the self.”

At first glance this seems like a horrible sentiment: We all love on a personal basis and we expect to be loved the same way, for ourselves. But if “self” means your everyday personality, there is much that isn’t very lovable about each of us and as a marriage or relationship unfolds, there’s a guarantee that our partners will see those unlovable things more clearly. Even a knight in shining armor might want to save more than one damsel, and even saint must use deodorant once in a while.

In the world’s wisdom tradition, “love” and “self” are both universal. They exist beyond the individual personality. The secret of love is to expand beyond the personal. When people say that they want unconditional love, they often imply that they want to be loved despite their shortcomings, issues and quirks. But that’s nearly impossible if love remains at the personal level. At a certain point, if you begin to see love itself as your goal, universal love is more powerful and secure than personal love.

The poet Rabindranath Tagore described the spiritual side of love in a single expression” “Love is the only reality and it is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation.” The gift of human awareness is that we can locate the source of creation in ourselves. By going deeper into the self, asking “Who am I?” without settling for a superficial answer, the ego-personality fades. A sense of the true self begins to dawn, and it is this self that exists in contact with love as the only reality.

The journey becomes more fascinating if someone else travels with you. Life isn’t about abstractions; it’s about experience. If you have a beloved who stands for the feeling of love, bonding, and affection, your journey has a focus that can’t be supplied merely by thinking. The experiences that love bring include surrender, devotion, selflessness, giving, gratitude, appreciation, kindness and bliss. So if the phrase “universal love” seems daunting or improbable to you, break it down into these smaller experiences. Pursue them, and you will be traveling in the direction of your source, where the true self and true love merge.

That’s where my spoiler alert comes in. Announcing the secret of love cuts short the actual experience. It doesn’t always help to know what’s coming, because you might fall into exaggerated expectations and fall short. It’s better and more realistic to become aware that love is now your personal project. Show kindness and gratitude. Speak about what your beloved means to you. Every step on this journey works on behalf of the two of you but also on behalf of the self that unites you at the deepest level.

Deepak Chopra, MD, author of more than 70 books with 21 New York Times best sellers in both fiction and non-fiction including “The Path to Love” and music CD, “The Secrets of Love.

4 Simple Steps to Manifestation

Roslyn Loxton - Friday, May 25, 2012

4 Simple Steps to Manifestation

With the recent shift in awareness many of us are becoming conscious of our dormant capacity to manifest our desires and achieve our goals. Many refer to this phenomenon as working with the universe, the law of attraction, or being the creator of your destiny. Regardless of how we look at it most of us now realize that we can make things happen, however we may wonder exactly how to do this; what exactly are the steps; does it work every time?

Through my own experience and, all the work I have done, and books that I have read I have outlined below four simple steps to manifest what you want providing that it is in alignment with what is best for you. This means that although you are very clear on what you want to manifest, you will ultimately get it through detachment to the result and truly being okay with or without it.

Step One – Name what you want

Most of us want something in life, be it more money, power, luxury, relationships, a healthy body, successful career, ideal weight and so on. We desire that which we do not have or do not have enough of. It is important to be as specific as you possibly can when describing what you want; so if you want a specific client write down 10 traits of your ideal customer. If you want to be financially rich ask yourself what that looks like? How much money would make you rich and where should that money come from? It also helps to know why you want it; will it help you to be happier/ content/ healthier etc? Please do bear in mind that we all have choice and free-will, so if you name a specific person you could be infringing on their right to choose. It is best not to attach a particular form to your desire, instead focus on all the traits you want to see in that person.

Remember if you can’t name it, you can’t have it!

Step Two – Discover your blockages

Coming from the premise that everything is energy or vibration and the vibration of one thing impacts another, the only reason why you do not have what you want is because you have certain beliefs that prevent you from getting it. These beliefs propel you to be the complete opposite of who you need to be in order to obtain your goal. For example, if your goal is to have a loving relationship, the underlying belief may be ‘ I don’t deserve to be loved’ – this belief may be so subtle that it goes unnoticed, yet it is something you have felt for a long time and keeps cropping up.

You can identify your beliefs by writing down why you think you don’t have what you want. When you are aware of your negative beliefs, make a commitment to eradicate it. This can be achieved by focusing on it, feeling the toxicity of the emotion in your body, and keep exhaling out the emotional charge as if you are blowing air into a balloon. Keep doing this on a daily basis until you feel no emotions attached to the negative belief.

Step Three: Believe you can have it

For anything to materialize someone needs to believe that it is possible; your thoughts need to be in alignment with your desire. Many times we may know that we want something, and at the same time we are scared we won’t be able to handle it if we receive it. When you have eradicated your negative beliefs, it is time to strengthen the positive and match your thoughts with your desires.

Write down at least 10 reasons why you believe you can have your particular goal. It could be because you have done something similar before; or because you have all the skills and qualifications needed to achieve it; or because you know others have done it so you can too; or because you believe that things have always come easily to you. As you are writing this, you are telling yourself and the universe that you are ready and open to receiving it.

Finally close your eyes, imagine that you have manifested what you want, and focus on what that feels like. It is important to keep focusing on the emotions that you would feel once you have achieved it, and experience the same contentment, peace, joy, happiness, excitement or anything else. The subconscious mind does not know the difference between physical reality or creative visualization, so in your visualization you are planting memories in your subconscious that lay the foundation for success.

Step Four: Let it go

If you have ever held sand in the palm of your hand and squeezed it, you would see that it spills. Similarly if we hold onto our desires and goals with attachment, we are creating the negative vibration of fear and decreasing the possibility of getting what you want. This is one of the most crucial steps of manifestation – and probably the one that is most overlooked. Once you know why you believe you will have that goal, surrender it totally and completely to the universe with confidence. Carry on with your life with the positive emotions, and be fine with or without this goal. It may sound strange, but what you are doing is taking away any residual negative belief, fear or greed associated with the desire. Once you truly let go and feel good about yourself ….. Watch the universe perform its magic! ☺

Manifestation is rooted in our thoughts, words, behavior and actions. Try the formula above and I would love to hear about your results.

By Sonia Samtani
Personal Development Practitioner
Sonia Samtani Consulting

Relationship Building Blocks

Roslyn Loxton - Saturday, March 31, 2012

One blog post is not going to be a cure all for any dilemma; however it can be a great help.

Recently I have been up skilling as a change agent/ Coach and I seem to have attracted a run of clients experiencing relationship challenges.

There are some common themes occurring which have inspired me to share some strategies to help make the complex more simple.

For a relationship to prosper there needs to be 3 pillars underpinning the relationship, creating the foundation that you build onto, if you are experiencing challenges in your relationship, you can identify from these three pillars, where the challenges are coming from and what aspect of your relationship requires tweaking:

1.  Effective communication - this is where people fall over the most - we must learn what language we speak in and what language our partner speaks in so that we interpret and translate the right messages.  People are complex processing machines and emotions often confuse the data or facts.  Values are different for different people and understand how to articulate what is important to you, how you have perceived something and where your limits and boundaries are will all impact your outcomes.  What says love to one person doesn’t necessarily translate to love for the next person.  We speak in different love languages and value languages.  Some of us have become accustomed to being defensive and blaming assuming everything else is to blame and others of us know how to accept responsibility for our actions and thoughts and words.  Fighting is the most unsuccessful form of communicating.  It is about caring only about being heard and making the other person wrong.  As opposed to understanding exactly what each others perspective is acknowledging you understand it, feeling as though you have been fully understand and working toward getting onto the same page as a team.  Emotion often flares up and blows the facts around into such a mess you both get lost in it all.

2.  Trust – when present is the strongest binding relationship glue.  Trust breaks down easily if communication isn't honest and open and flowing and appreciated or encouraged and rewarded.  We can earn trust and we can lose trust, it doesn't come free.  Once trust is broken repairing it is close to impossible, close to impossible.  Sometimes if you repair broken trust, it can move into an even stronger state then before it was broken.  This takes commitment and communication.

3.  Commitment - Equal and unwavering commitment to the relationship and what you are both working toward.  Have a vision for what your future together looks like.  Share common goals so that what you are working on is for a stimulating reason and not just clocking in and clocking out of a routine that will become dull and predictable and very tested once kids arrive.  Have exciting plans for how you want your life to look in 12 months, 3years and 10 years from now.  Otherwise, you can get bored, start to resent each other and start growing in 2 different directions.  This is where we start looking for cliché ways to spice up our life because we failed to stay involved in things that we are passionate about, stimulating our sense of passion so we start looking for easy fix things external from ourselves to give us that sense of passion.  Set passionate goals and vision statements with your partner and keep them alive and refreshed.

There are 4 stages in a relationship: You will be in one of these

1.  Denial - In the beginning stages we ignore signs and differences.  It's new and exciting and too early to tell.

2.  Reality hits - admit things you don't like about the other person and you try to change them.  This is the stage where most relationships end or go pear shaped 

3.  Acceptance - we realise and have peace with the fact that we can't change people or some aspects of people and nor is our business to make people change as a condition of our love.  Maybe if you need to change someone so much, it might just mean, you’re not well matched.  You’re trying to shove a round peg into a square hole.  Accepting someone is a loving peaceful feeling as is being accepted by some one.  This does not mean we should accept bad behaviour.  Remember the golden rule, we teach people how to treat us.  If your partner’s behaviour is unacceptable to you, it is a sign that your limits and boundaries have been crossed or your value systems are not aligned.  Values like respect, honor, integrity, honesty, loyalty, generosity etc.

4.  Celebrate your differences


Do my beliefs determine my wealth by Kate Osborne

Roslyn Loxton - Sunday, June 12, 2011

Do my beliefs determine my wealth?

As I recently surveyed past clients who achieved extraordinary success on my coaching programme, I started to observe at interesting correlation. The clients who had a secure and definite belief structure maintained and experienced more wealth and better health.

In fact, it didn’t matter what belief structure was prominent; i.e. they may have believed in strict Christianity, Buddhism, Yoda, the Law of Attraction, the Secret… The underlying premise being that they were not in control, that there is something bigger – a greater organised design, an infinite power or divine plan.

For me, I had always linked religion with spirituality and saw no connection between beliefs and business. So as a business coach, I kept strictly to the business side of accountability – with experience I can see how naïve I was and how intertwined our core values are when we want to achieve joy in our lives.

Just like when I discovered my most successful clients ran every day, I started running, my expectation increased and so discuss my results. Since beginning to open up to observing others beliefs, I too have started to decide for myself what works and what doesn’t work and have found more joy and peace in the work that I do. My latest workshops “Smiles”, “Bliss”, “Freedom” and “Peace” are all a result of this and gave me a clear path to discover for myself my individual secrets to my success. A powerful tool for moving from RICH to WEALTHY. I encourage you to invest some time in observing others that have inner contentment and share with us their secrets to success. If they are like my clients, they will have a solid belief structure in their lives and will have surrendered control.

Roslyn Loxton - Tuesday, May 17, 2011

5 Tips to make your weight loss goal a reality

Mat Skate


Now that you have established your GREAT weight loss goal as detailed in my last blog you must be feeling very excited and waiting for that specific date that you have set yourself when you will become your ideal weight. So, all you need to do is sit back and watch your body transform…. Right? If only it was that easy. Ask yourself, if it was that easy would you feel the same level of satisfaction after achieving your goal weight? I’m not going to proclaim that reaching and maintaining your ideal weight will be easy. Let’s face it, if it was easy you would be your ideal weight right now. What I will suggest, is there will be times where you will be challenged. There will be times when it will seem hard. There may also be times when those little voices in your head tell you to throw it all in because it’s not worth it.

If you are serious about achieving your weight loss goal here are 5 key tips to assist you to remaining accountable to the goal you have set for yourself.

  1. Tell all your friends about your goal. And I mean ALL of your friends. This includes family members, Facebook friends, and even people that you meet for the first time. Why? Who would you be accountable to if your goal was to lose 20 kg in one year and didn’t tell anybody? One person, yourself. If you told your friends and family what your goal was and how committed you are to losing the weight would this make you more accountable? Absolutely. Nobody likes to fail, by telling everyone about your goal you will not only get support from them, but you will also have a much higher level of accountability. Want to take it one step higher, suggest some ways and options that your family and friends can assist you to remain accountable (such as exercising together and preparing healthy food together).

  2. Be your ideal weight now. when you go to bed each night, put on some relaxing soft music. this music should inspire you and help you drift off to sleep. Now, this is the important part, whilst you are listening, close your eyes and take yourself into the future and step right into your goal, so that you are looking through your own eyes in your new beautiful body. Whilst you are there, emphasise all the positive feelings that you have associated with being your ideal weight. Highlight all the feelings, sounds, and sites that you will be associated with in your future self. Make this picture as compelling as you can. Turn and look back towards the past and notice that everything that has to happen in order for you to achieve your goal is starting to unfold and change. Discuss to yourself all the positive affirmations that you are prepared to undertake. Become crystal clear on the type of healthy foods it will require for you to reach your goal. set and intention on what kind of exercise regime you are prepared to commit to. This is guided visualisation should only take around 5 to 10 min. If you are serious about achieving your goal then do this EVERY night.

  3. Place your goal everywhere. When you have written your goal, place it up in key locations in your house and at work. One of the quickest ways to make your goal unsuccessful, is to write it, then file it. If you have a picture of yourself, perhaps when you were younger at your ideal weight, then add that photo to your goal page. I often suggest people place their goal page somewhere where they can see it as soon as they wake up in the morning, I then suggest they read it, and set an intention for the day that will help them get closer to their goal. You should be reading your goal a minimum of twice a day (when you get up and before you go to bed). Other great places to put your goal up are on the fridge, the pantry, the bathroom mirror, and on the TV cabinet.

  4. Have fun. have fun and enjoy the ride. Achieving your goal should not be a chore. When it comes to weight loss, I would suggest that it is the most rewarding feeling of achieving something that you have set out to do and remained accountable every step of the way. If you want to make your weight loss journey one of the most profound experiences of your life then you need to enjoy the process. enjoy the experiences of eating whole nutritious foods. Enjoy the benefits that a healthy exercise will give you (not only weight loss benefits, but also fantastic health and well-being benefits). And most importantly, enjoy and love the person that you are becoming.

  5. Take action. It’s all well and good having goals and telling yourself that you would love to lose 20 kg in one year. The reality is, taking action is the only thing that will provide you with forward momentum towards achieving your goal. Super tip number 5 is the only way to become accountable. Without action, tips 1 to 4 will only be thoughts. Set intentions. How? Every morning when you wake up, sets intentions for the day. Perhaps you will choose that all the food that you choose to eat that day will have a positive impact on your health. In the evening before you go to bed set an intention to get up at 6 AM and exercise for 30 or 40 min. Setting intentions will lead to action and therefore model your behaviour that will inevitably assist you to achieve your goal.

Accountability is the key. You choose the foods you put in your mouth. You choose if you exercise or not. Nobody else is responsible for achieving results except yourself. Habits are formed in around 21 to 30 days. Following the five steps above will help you form positive habits and behaviours towards your weight loss goals.

Mat Skate

Weight to Life Coaching and Fitness

Weight Loss coach and Personal Trainer

Live Life at 100%

Make Your Life a Masterpiece - Brian Tracy

Roslyn Loxton - Tuesday, May 17, 2011

May 15, 2011

Sharing some Brian Tracy, one of my favorite Life Success Coaches

Make Your Life a Masterpiece

By Brian Tracy

This is the age of achievement. Never have more people accomplished more things in more different fields than they are accomplishing today. More people are becoming successful at a faster rate than at any other time in history. There have never been more opportunities for you to turn your dreams into realities than there are right now. 

The Seven Ingredients of Success

Your ideal life is a blending these seven ingredients in exactly the combination that makes you the happiest at any particular moment. By defining your success and happiness in terms of one or more of these seven ingredients, you create a clear target to aim it. You can then measure how well you're doing. You can identify the areas where you need to make changes if you want your life to improve. 

Peace of Mind

The first of these seven ingredients of success, and easily the most important, is peace of mind. It is the highest human good. Without it, nothing else has much value. In corporations, peace of mind can be measured in terms of the amount of harmony that exists among coworkers. The wonderful truth about peace of mind is that it is your normal natural condition. It is the basic precondition for enjoying everything else. 

Health and Energy

The second ingredient of success is health and energy. Just as peace of mind is your normal and natural mental state, health and energy is your normal and natural physical state. If you achieve all kinds of things in the material world, but lose your health then you will get little or no pleasure from your other accomplishments. So imagine yourself enjoying perfect health, and think of how you would be if you were your ideal image of physical fitness. Then strive for your mental goal of fitness and health. 

Loving Relationships

The third ingredient of success is loving relationships. These are relationships with the people you love and care about, and the people who love and care about you. They are the real measure of how well you are doing as a human being. At almost any time, you can measure how well you are doing in your relationship by one simple test: laughter. This is true for companies as well. High-performance, high profit organizations are those in which people laugh and joke together. Examine your relationships, one by one, and develop a plan to make each of them enjoyable and satisfying. 

Financial Freedom

The fourth ingredient of success is financial freedom. Achieving your financial freedom is one of the most important goals and responsibilities of your life. A feeling of freedom is essential to the achievement of any other important goal, and you cannot be free until and unless you have enough money so that you are no longer preoccupied with it. When you decide exactly what you want your financial picture to look like, you will be able to use this system to achieve your goals faster than you might have imagined possible.

Worthy Goals and Ideals

The fifth ingredient of success is worthy goals and ideals. To be truly happy, you need a clear sense of direction. You need to feel that your life stands for something, that you are somehow making a valuable contribution to your world. 

Self Knowledge and Self-Awareness

The sixth ingredient of success is self-knowledge and self-awareness. To perform at your best you need to know who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. It is only when you understand and accept yourself that you can begin moving forward in other areas of your life. 

Personal Fulfillment 

The seventh ingredient of success is personal fulfillment. This is the feeling that you are becoming everything that you are capable of becoming. It is the sure knowledge that you are moving toward the realization of your full potential as a human being. 

Action Exercise

Take the brush of your imagination and begin painting a masterpiece on the canvas of your life. It is for you to decide clearly what would make you the happiest in everything you are doing. 

You Can Eliminate Scarcity Thinking

Roslyn Loxton - Friday, May 13, 2011

You Can Eliminate Scarcity Thinking

(c) 2008 Laurie J. Brenner

Beliefs Are Like Ice burgs

Most of our beliefs lie beneath our surface within our subconscious minds.

Money, Beliefs and Belief Busters

Is the Law of Attraction not working for you? Maybe it's because you think that there is not enough to go around or that you're not good enough or that others always seem to get what you want.

Honestly, I've thought these same things myself. And it's beliefs and thoughts like these that work against us and help to sabotage whatever positive work we're doing. The Law of Attraction works whether you believe it can or not. And it's powered by your most prevalent thoughts.

For most of us, our most prevalent thoughts occur without us ever being aware of them. They come from our subconscious where all of our beliefs have been stored, waiting to be called upon, and used as needed.

Our belief systems are formed by the personal world in which we live; the country in which we are born, the social groups we belong to, the spiritual doctrines to which we adhere, the science we subscribe to, our experiences and relationships with parents, lovers, family, friends and sometimes even strangers, and the level to which we interact with that which is unseen, or the mysteries of the unknown realms - the Source.

All of our experiences get locked away in our subconscious along with our reptilian brain and strung together in a convoluted mass that comes out when needed, most especially when we feel threatened in some way, perceived or real. Ever heard the term pushing my buttons? Those buttons are connected to long-term held beliefs and belief systems. The old method of dealing with this was to remove the buttons. While that may work for some, it is much better to remove the beliefs behind the buttons.

Once you remove your limited beliefs you can replace them with unlimited beliefs that align with your dreams and desires. Some examples of unlimited beliefs are

  • I'm not lucky
  • I won't get that job
  • No-one will ever read what I've written
  • Mary won't date me
  • Bill won't date me
  • I'm not good enough
  • I don't make enough money
  • I always get sick at this time of the year

Start listening to your own speech, you will find your limiting beliefs begin with such statements as I can't, I'm not, I have to, it's impossible to. You'll be surprised how much of your conversation stems from your limiting beliefs. And you wonder why the Law of Attraction isn't working in your life? It is - it's bringing to you what you primarily focus on whether you're aware of it or not.

Now that's a fine howdy-do. I bet you're asking - well if I don't know what these beliefs are and they're popping up whether I'm aware of it or not, how am I to ever know what's going on?

Your first clue is to listen to your feelings. How do you feel? Do you feel crappy? That's a clue.

One way to attune to your desires is to notice how you feel and change so that you're happy, watch a movie, a comedy, listen to a song you like, call your friend, do something that makes you feel good.

All of these things will work - but it will only change your feelings - not your subconscious beliefs. Changing your subconscious beliefs take work from you. Work and commitment. Some ways to do that are:

  • Use positive affirmations
  • Develop a daily gratitude list
  • Quit listening to things that create negative thinking in your life
  • Meditate
  • Find a Life Coach
  • Use Neural Linguistic Programming (NLP)
  • Use the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
  • Learn to Let Go and Let God

What works for you may not work for someone else. But finding what works for you and then practicing it can free up your subconscious from limiting beliefs that once served you, but now no longer do.

The truth of the matter is - it's your journey and you can do what you want. But wouldn't life be so much better if you were free of the beliefs that keep you from really succeeding at what you want in life?